Hello again,
These past weeks I came to a realization:
I don’t need to be someone.
I just need to live as the real me — here, now, in the present.
For years, I attached myself to roles and labels: father, husband, IT professional, writer, shaman, therapist. Each came with expectations. Each came with pressure to fit an identity. And the more I tried to be the role perfectly, the more I suffered.
But something is shifting.
I’m not the label. I’m the one who lives, acts, loves, creates, heals, and experiences.
When I’m with my kids, I don’t have to be “the perfect father.” I just play with them, care for them, and share presence. When I’m with my wife, I don’t need to fulfill every expectation of what a “husband” should be — I simply love her and walk beside her. When I write, I don’t have to prove I’m “a real writer.” I wrote a book. I share stories. That’s enough.
Life feels more like a river now. It flows — sometimes through curves, obstacles, or even waterfalls. But it keeps moving. The less I attach to outcomes or identities, the less I resist. And in that space, there is more joy, freedom, and gratitude.
This shift did not happen overnight. It’s been happening for many years already. I described parts of this process in my book How I Met Myself — peeling away layers of identity, one by one, like an onion. The story continues even now, with every new discovery leading me deeper. If you’d like to explore how it all began, my book is available here, with all links to distributors in one place:
👉 How I Met Myself — And How You Can Meet Yourself
Now, instead of pushing harder, I pause. Before I act, I ask myself: Do I really believe in this step? If my belief wobbles, I don’t force it. I calm my mind, return to my body, reconnect with myself. And then, when all aligns, action flows effortlessly. Less struggle, more trust. Less proving, more being.
Life, for me, is no longer about carrying labels. It’s a continuous discovery.
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- Why Men Fear Feminine Energy – A raw exploration of how fear of the feminine has shaped men, relationships, and society — and how we can shift toward balance.
☀️ A Soft Question for You
What role or label feels the heaviest for you right now?
And what would change if you could simply live — without the need to fit into it?
🎯 Behind the Scenes
- I’m finalizing the Polish translation of my book — it should be ready before Christmas.
- The Spanish edition is progressing well, on track for Easter 2026.
- My book in English keeps reaching more and more readers — sales are picking up, and I’m grateful to see it finding its way into people’s hands and lives.
With love and gratitude,
Pawel
📸 Instagram: @plglod
🎁 PS You can always revisit the full archive of past newsletters here:
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